Thursday, November 29, 2007

FAMILY

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FAMILY/ November 29, 2007
My father was a missionary, educator, and minister. He wrote these words before his death in 1989. This is the condensed form of the Forward by him to my book “When Even the Devil Deserts You”. This piece first appeared in my blog March 4, 2005
““We experienced great disappointment and frustration that our child with outstanding ability was unable to cope in work or school. It was difficult during the earlier years of his illness to differentiate between his mental illness and adolescent behavior. We felt some of our friends and colleagues did not accept us in the usual manner because of our son’s behavior, that they considered us less respectable because of a non-conforming member of the family. The mentally ill and their families have a special need for people to befriend them, not in sympathy but in understanding and support. .......... There were times we did not know where Edward was, even for weeks. We wondered whether he had food or shelter, and even whether he was alive. It was very difficult for me to swallow food, not knowing whether he had anything to eat. .......... When Ed was at home we would lie awake at night and listen, for fear he would get up and try to leave. Once when I found him on the street and brought him home, he did not even recognize the house, and he said he did not have a key when he suggested that he go into the room where he usually slept. We offered him coffee and he said he didn’t have any money to pay for it. ............ One of the most painful experiences was visiting him on a locked ward in a hospital and hearing the door being locked behind us as we left without being able to take him home with us. ....... A few months ago Edward told us about the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill. We found out about groups meeting in our area and started attending monthly meetings of two of these support groups. Until then we felt isolated, knowing no one else personally who shared our problems and feelings. ........ Our son has made us more aware than ever of the spiritual needs of the mentally ill and their families. There is stigma and a lack of knowledge concerning mental illness to be overcome. Stigma must be erased and replaced with compassion. It is not easy to stand before my peers and state that I have a son who is mentally ill and that we should have a ministry in our church to help alleviate the stigma and to reach out in love and compassion to the mentally ill and their families as we do when someone has a physical illness. I must continue to do so, and so must others if this problem of neglect is to be addressed with the emphasis and implementation that it deserves.”
I think this piece has a lot to say. It is not his complete Forward to the book, but it gives you some idea about what he thought about having a son with mental illness before he died. The church he was a leader in never did start a ministry and he made few if any presentations on the subject.
The point of sharing this is to say how very hard it is on the family. Mental Illness is no walk in the park. A broken brain and a shattered soul need a home. A place to be embraced.
I want to share another blog that appeared April 6, 2005. It is also about family. About a family member who taught me about spirituality.
“With the death of Pope John Paul II, I have started thinking more about my own faith and spiritual life. Even though I was raised in a fundamentalist Christian church which in my youth taught us to believe the Pope was in league with the devil, I have come to love this Pope. The strength of his faith as he faced death is to be admired. I think the world will miss this man.
Another man who faced death with more courage, dignity and faith than I could imagine was my brother-in-law. Tom Edwards had spent his life as a minister, missionary and writer among other things, but it was the way he faced his own death that made his life stand out to me. He emailed me often before he died. We had never been that close really, but his emails were a ministry to me during one of my deep depressions. How he found it in his heart to minister to me as he faced his own death is still a mystery to me.
There is no doubt in my mind that Tom had faith in his own salvation and in the God he had served all his life. I have heard him preach about faith and belief, but his all time best sermon in my mind was the way he faced his own death. It was with a certainty I had never seen before and have not seen since in a person that I knew personally.
Maybe Tom Edwards and John Paul are meeting in heaven right now. What will they discuss? Of course I really have no idea, but maybe they will chat about why some of us have such a hard time with faith.
I started preaching in my early teens while in Rhodesia, now Zimbabwe, with my parents who were missionaries there. I was last in a pulpit over a decade ago speaking about the need for the church to reach out to folks like me who suffer from a mental illness. Do I believe anything? Am I a person of faith?
Among other things Tom’s faith helped him face his own death. My faith has kept me alive. Since a child I have been suicidal. Sometimes I have been locked away in a hospital, but the real thing that has kept me alive when I most wanted to kill myself was my faith. I have just enough faith and belief not to risk making God mad at me by killing myself. Not enough to live by, but too much to die with. Maybe someday I will have enough faith to face the day of my death with the dignity of Tom and John Paul.”
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Monday, November 26, 2007

BEING A FAMILY MEMBER

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BEING A FAMILY MEMBER/ November 26, 2007
Being a family member of a person with a mental illness is harder than being the person with the mental illness. I think I have the right to state that personal opinion because I have watched the suffering of my family over the years and because along with being a person with a mental illness I am a family member myself.
My parents and my sisters have been in agony over the years because of my illness. Both of my parents are dead. They did not live to see the better years. The years I have put together over the past fifteen years or so. My father died right at the beginning of the better years and my mom was so sick she died early in them. Too early to know it was a lasting change. I had strung good months together before. How was she to know this time was any different?
Let me tell you a little about the program I have been on. I call it the Patty Program. When I talk about it in seminars or speeches people always say, “Well that sounds good, but everybody does not have a Patty.” Don’t make that mistake here please. It is true. No one else has a Patty. She is special. She is my wife. I would not loan her out even if I could, but anyone who knows Patty knows I don’t own her so I couldn’t loan her.
We now have the first concept of the Patty Program. You don’t own your loved one. I do not own Patty and she does not own me. That puts the burden for my behavior on me. Since I am not a slave, but rather a free person I must take responsibility for my own actions. Being free is scary. It takes courage to accept the responsibility rather than blame the illness.
I liked the highs of mania. They were better than any high produced by any drug. Until I decided to take my meds on a regular basis the better years did not begin. When I first went on medications regularly for my bipolar illness, I went for a time to the Outpatient Clinic at Memorial Hospital in Broward County, FL ,but it was not the therapy there that helped. It was my friend Joyce who was in charge, but still took time to talk to me that helped me over the hump. It was Jan at who I saw at mental health meetings and who had run a group for years who helped. It was Patty who never tried to force the drugs, but just simply walked beside me.
We now have the second concept. BE WILLING TO SIMPLY WALK BESIDE THE PERSON YOU LOVE. This is not easy for a family member to do. You see someone suffering and you naturally want it relieved. It is how you help them get it relieved that matters.
Sally Clay, one of the leading advocates, grew up in the same small town in Kentucky that I lived in just before Daddy took us to the mission field in southern Africa. She wrote an article for the Dream Again Journal which was published by Dream Again Press for a few years in the 90’s. It was called “Spirituality and Anger” and can still be found at her website www.sallyclay.net. It was published in the January 1996 issue. Sally Clay might say I am stepping over the line here too.
Kurt Entsminger in his statement on the website of the Treatment Advocacy Center where he will become the Executive Director January 2, 2008 says, “It is my history that brought me to TAC. As a person who has struggled with bipolar disorder for many years, I understand firsthand the difference that effective treatment can make in allowing someone to function normally again. My hospitalization and subsequent and continuing treatment is the reason I’m well today.”
I have no problem with that statement but then later on he says, “I was particularly drawn to this new position because of my great empathy for the hundreds of thousands of Americans who continue, without treatment, to struggle with the consequences of untreated severe brain disorders. Far too many people with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder are living on our streets, are warehoused in our prisons, and unnecessarily remain at risk for violence or suicide. I believe it is time to restore common sense to a society that has literally sacrificed human sanity in the name of personal privacy and an outdated and unrealistic understanding of what constitutes true civil rights. “
Now I got a problem Kurt. In 1978 Judi Chamberlin’s book “On Our Own” came out. It is available at the National Empowerment Center store online at www.power2u.org. At Sally Clay’s website there is information about a book “On Our Own, Together” edited by Sally Clay. Maybe Kurt should read them both.
My disability Kurt nor the disability of any of my fellow sojourners does not mean we have lost any of our rights so let’s just talk plain. Your words are code for let’s force treatment on every poor soul we decide needs it.
Kurt, another book you might want to read was written by Edward M. Podvoll, M.D. In the “The Seduction of Madness” he says, “Moments of natural recovery, ‘islands of clarity’ as I have called them, happen all the time within the experience of psychosis; not only can these be recognized and acknowledged, they need to be protected.”
How do I know Dr. Podvoll is right? Because I have experienced them. “On Our Own” may be the only way when our own betray us.
I wrote about how hard it was to be a family member in my own book “When Even the Devil Deserts You” which is still available through Dream Again Press at www.projectdreamagain.com, but please try the Patty Program before resorting to forced treatment. Do you know how many of us get killed each year while they are trying to pick us up to take us in for the forced treatment? Do you know how many of us die while we are in there? Do you know how many of us will never trust a mental health professional again or the person who had it done?
No matter how tough the road gets embrace me don’t force treat me then at least I can still trust somebody.


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Monday, November 19, 2007

I AM NOT A CAR

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I AM NOT A CAR!/ November 19, 2007

I am not a car. You can’t just take me to a mechanic at a garage and have new parts put in me. The recovery process is not like fixing a broken piece of machinery. It is more like a long walk with good weather some days and bad weather other days. Sometimes the path is so far down between the mountains you can barely see the sun when it comes up. Other days you are walking on top of a mountain along the ridge and all seems well. You must keep walking even after the sun goes down and there is only darkness all around. If you want to help me, then walk beside me. The problem is too many people have the fix-it syndrome and only want to fix me rather than walk beside me.
I don’t have to be told that I have flaws and things that I need to work on. I am well aware of my faults because the world never lets me forget them. What I need as well as what my fellow sojourners need are fewer critics and more folks willing to take the steps along the path with us.
It takes the ability to see things from our viewpoint. That may sound simple, but it is not. Merriam-Webster Online defines empathy this way, “the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another.”
I don’t know how many times I have said in frustration, “If they think they can do it better with what I have to work with then jump in my shoes and do it.” I know I have said it enough times that my wife must be tired of hearing it, but I get tired of being told what I should be able to do and what I should do without being asked what I want.
This is not just a “poor Ed” piece. I am trying to convey the idea that if you want to be helpful to a person on their recovery journey who has a mental illness then you will have to partner with them not try to direct or drive them.
You have to change the viewpoint from yours to theirs. This gets tricky. I am always asked, “But what if they say something delusional?” “Are you saying I should say I see something or hear something that I don’t.” No I am not.
Empathic understanding, genuineness, and unconditional positive regard that were the tri-pod that Carl Rogers’ work stood on does not mean you reinforce or agree to any delusional thinking system, illegal act, or immoral act. It means exactly what it says.
However, telling a person that they don’t see a big six foot tall rabbit when they tell you they do will get you exactly no where. A simple “I’m sorry I don’t see him” is enough. It shows you heard the person and respect the person, but you have not agreed to seeing something you did not see. In fact we have been known to do such things as test mental health professionals to see what they would say when we say delusional things and then at times we are simply delusional, but when I look around me I sometimes can’t tell who the delusional ones are.
The point here is we aren’t cars. We need someone willing to walk the hills, deserts, marsh lands, flat lands, and beaches with us. Will you talk a walk with us today?

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Friday, November 16, 2007

THE CARPENTER

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THE CARPENTER/ November 16, 2007

I apologize for being late with this blog. Patty’s Aunt passed away and we were out of town. Mary Lou Franklin Phillips Egan would have been 103 years old in January 2008. There was a service for her in Burke County, NC the place of her birth and then she was interred in Florida next to her husband.
For almost two weeks I worked with a master carpenter who is also a general contractor. He happens to be Patty’s son so he went easy on his step-father and I am glad. The etymology of the word carpenter in Latin (carpentarius) and Celtic (carpat) both mean carriage. We did not build a means of transportation, but I did learn that carpentry was more than nailing wood together. A master carpenter is an artisan.
In the letter to the Hebrews in the New Testament we find these words, “the builder of a house has greater honor than the house itself. For every house is built by someone, but God is the builder of everything.” (NIV Hebrews 3: parts of verses 3 & 4)
I am not a builder. I am not an artisan. I even wonder each day if I am even a person. I am not alone in this. One of the mountains we must climb on the recovery journey is finding our personhood.
Knowing the Builder of everything considers one a person certainly is the centerpiece of making that climb. I personally am a Christian and I don’t try to hide it on this blog, but I am not the one to decide the path for others. All I am saying is that I think knowing the Builder, the Creator, is the best self esteem builder I know of. If I feel embraced and in the arms of the Creator, then all the stigma and discrimination I face can’t make a dent in how I feel about being a person.
A community of believers like the church I attend makes it easier for me to build my relationship with the Carpenter, the Builder of All That Is. The community of believers helps me climb the mountain of recovery.
In the second verse of the 13th chapter of the letter to the Hebrews we find these words, “Do not forget to entertain strangers for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it.” (NIV)

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Monday, November 12, 2007

FIRST-PERSON

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FIRST-PERSON/ November 12, 2007

Why when I go see a psychiatrist does it seem like they can’t see the whole me? I know part of the problem is the way we fund the public mental health system. They can’t spend very much time with me and they certainly aren’t going to deal with any physical problems I might have. Also, when I go to my medical doctor I know he/she can’t spend any time dealing with my mental illness. In fact, if I happen to be manic or near manic they seem to not want to treat me at all. It is hard to get my medical needs taken care of. It is hard to be seen and treated as a whole person.
Back to the original question. One of the big problems is how the mind is viewed. Daniel C. Dennett and many others see the mind as simply the brain in action. That has been a convenient viewpoint for the drug makers and the funders of the system. If a person’s mind is only an action of his or her brain then a pill will fix the problem.
What if Dennett and those who think like him are wrong? What if mind is more than merely the action of one’s brain? Cartesian dualism says they are wrong, but modern science simply dismisses Descartes (1596-1650) as a philosopher without the facts of modern science. I simply dismiss Dennett and his theories as not having all the facts. You do not have to be a Cartesian dualist to disagree with Dennett.
When I do seminars on FIRST-PERSON I am basically trying to get across three concepts.
1) We are bio-psycho-social-spiritual beings therefore our minds are greater than merely a function of our brains because we also have a soul through which we can communicate with the Creator.
2) That the person has FIRST-PERSON knowledge with respect to the contents of his or her mind, whereas others (third persons) can only get at these contents indirectly. Therefore the person has FIRST-PERSON AUTHORITY.
3) FIRST-PERSON AUTHORITY means the person is the one who gets to make the decisions on the recovery journey because they have the best most accurate knowledge. When I am at my worst I will need help, but if you haven’t built a relationship with me on this principle then I will not let you help me. I will not trust you when I need to.
FIRST-PERSON may sound simple or it may sound wrong to you, but it works. It is along with hope and learning to Dream Again the keys to being able to walk the recovery pathway. I know. I am walking it each day. Sometimes I stumble way back down the mountain and have to pick myself up and start all over. I have been doing this since 1964 and I can tell you I don’t trust anyone who does not trust me. You can’t help me if I don’t trust you. FIRST-PERSON shows you trust me. Then I might trust you when I need help.


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Thursday, November 08, 2007

OUR CHILDREN


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OUR CHILDREN/ November 8, 2007
Pulitzer Prize winning cartoonist and novelist Doug Marlette, who recently died, wrote this line in what Pat Conroy calls “the finest first novel to come out of North Carolina since the publication of Thomas Wolfe’s Look Homeward, Angel.” Marlette wrote in The Bridge “We both know that monsters don’t spring full blown from Zeus’s brow.”
Likewise a baby is not born fully developed. Multiple factors and influences go into the development of an adult human being. One of the tragic influences we need to pay more attention to is childhood sexual abuse. The following article is a good example that we do not take seriously enough the protection of OUR CHILDREN.
“The former pastor of the Believers Faith Center in Iredell County, accused last year of sexually assaulting minors, has pleaded guilty to taking indecent liberties with children and has been placed on probation.
Carl Edward Nixon, who now lives in Charlotte, entered his guilty pleas Friday in courthouses in Iredell and Rowan counties, Rawls said. He was placed on probation for five years in Iredell and for four years in Rowan, the defense lawyer said. He'll be on intensive probation the first six months and will have daily contact with a probation officer.
Nixon, 66, is now employed as a truck driver. He must register as a sex offender with the state and can't be around children without another adult present, the defense lawyer said. He also must perform 50 hours of community service.
Two women in Nixon's church told authorities that Nixon made inappropriate contact with them more than 10 years ago when they were 11 and 14 years old, Detective Sgt. Bill Hamby told the Observer after the pastor was charged in 2006.
"Probation was appropriate because Carl Nixon accepted responsibility for his conduct," Rawls said, "and the conduct occurred in the late 1980s and early 1990s."
Iredell Assistant District Attorney Paxton Butler said he agreed to the plea because he believes Nixon likely would have gotten probation even had he been convicted at trial. Nixon didn't have a criminal record and didn't do anything more than inappropriate touching, the prosecutor said.
"You're glad when your victims aren't subjected to terrible abuse, but sometimes you wish you could do more," Butler said. "But the law doesn't allow for more when it stops at just the touching.” [THE CHARLOTTE OBSERVER, TUESDAY NOVEMBER 6]
Why do I keep writing about a subject most people do not want to hear about? Because OUR CHILDREN are in danger from a society who does not have the will to protect them or the will to properly deal with the people who victimize them.
The defense attorney thinks because the man confessed and because the sexual abuse was years ago the punishment was appropriate. One of the District Attorneys agreed to the plea because it was only touching. I guess he doesn’t know only touching is sexual abuse. I guess he doesn’t know that only touching from your Pastor has lasting memories you can’t forget. I guess he just plain doesn’t know anything about us.
Most victims of childhood sexual abuse of which I am one would have the same reaction as I do to this story. We know we did not all suffer the same amount or length of abuse. We know we did not suffer the same amount of physical pain. We know that each one of us coped in a different way. I believe we all have one thing in common. Deep in our hearts we would like to see justice. If you think justice was done in this case as the defense lawyer and prosecuting attorney does then OUR CHILDREN will never be safe.
Please go to this web site www.annafoundation.org
and then give some serious thought to the subject. As I have said before lots of folks with mental illnesses are also victims, but all OUR CHILDREN need all of us.

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Monday, November 05, 2007

WORDS MATTER

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WORDS MATTER/ November 5, 2007
“Imagine, if you will, a world in which the right-wing pundit Ann Coulter were not a grating opportunist who said horrible things on air for her own personal gain. Imagine—and it's a stretch—that she occasionally said something interesting or at least worth considering. Then her recent comments on Donny Deutsch's cable show might have generated a useful conversation instead a lot of name-calling and Scripture quoting. Here is what happened: Coulter and Deutsch were bantering about Israel and Iran, when Coulter used the phrase that has gotten so much attention. Christians, she said, ‘just want Jews to be perfected.’
‘Wow, you didn't really say that, did you?’ asked Deutsch.
‘Yes, that's what Christianity is,’ Coulter answered. Later in the program, Deutsch called Coulter "anti-Semitic," and in the days that followed, the Anti-Defamation League condemned Coulter's statement and the National Jewish Democratic Council called on news organizations to quit inviting Coulter on their programs. On the blogs, Christians alternately signaled their support of or opposition to Coulter's statement with Bible verses and profanity.”(Newsweek, November 5, 2007)
We may think our words don’t matter, but they do. Ann Coulter makes a very good living using them to hurt other people and other groups of people. For those of us with a disability, we know how much words mean. For people from a minority religion, color, or nationality they know how much words matter.
When the old adage “actions speak louder than words” was given birth, it was not the age of mass communication. A political blog in today’s world can have more influence than even a major march on Washington, DC.
My wife can do a hundred good actions, but break my spirit with a single word. I am not trying to say actions are not important. I am trying to get you to think about how much what you say and write matters.
What you don’t say and write matters too. When I lived on the streets on New York City (or any of the other cities where I found myself without housing) panhandling (begging for money), I would have loved to have heard a kind word. I would not have cared what personal faith the person had if any. I wanted and needed more than a kind word. I was able to panhandle quarters, but I seldom heard a kind word.
How are we to DREAM THE DREAM ONWARD to use a phrase from Jung if we never hear an encouraging word? Hate speech is a crime, but I don’t recall reading of a single case of it involving a person like me with a mental illness. Does it happen? Yes.
One example is the pulpit of churches across this country each Sunday. Let me ask you. What other group of people would society allow to be called demon possessed? I can hear you. It does not happen Ed. Yes it does.
In fact, my fellow sojourners are not only called demon possessed, but in some church somewhere in this great country of ours each Sunday a person with a brain disease is going through an exorcism. I can’t give you a number of how many a year, but I can assure you without any doubt whatsoever that what I am saying is a fact. To be called demon possessed when you have a medical illness ought to be considered a crime and hate speech, but then we are merely the mentally ill. Think how we have been treated down through the ages.
Yesterday my soul was blessed by a wonderful Sunday School lesson taught by a lady who believes deeply in the Grace of God. She does not see me as a candidate for an exorcism, but rather as a child of God. May all my fellow sojourners experience such a soul enriching moment.



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Thursday, November 01, 2007

WAKING UP!

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WAKING UP/ November 1, 2007
During September 2006 they took me off the medication that had been controlling my bipolar illness and put me on another medication. The new one did not work so they changed my medication again. All this because the blood tests were showing bad liver numbers. Finally, they did an ultra sound of my liver and discovered I had an abdominal aortic aneurysm and I had surgery in March 2007. As soon as I was able, we moved from our farm in southeastern Kentucky to the little town of Glen Alpine, North Carolina.
I had been in a long hibernation in Kentucky. A bear only hibernates during the winter, but I was doing it year around. With the medication change, I began to climb towards mania. There is some disagreement in the household (my wife and I) how close I made it to full blown mania.
I made it to the stage I could not sleep. I was extremely irritable. My head was full of more ideas than I could possibly get done. It seemed to me like the whole world was in slow motion and I was the only one moving at a reasonable pace. Call it what you will. I had waked up. I was no longer hibernating.
Complicating my bipolar disorder is the fact that I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Dually diagnosed usually means mentally ill and an addiction. What about a major mental illness and childhood sexual abuse? What is it called? A few blogs back I wrote about tri-diagnosis by which I meant a mental illness, an addiction, and childhood sexual abuse. I am no longer using any substance not prescribed by a doctor, but I have. I am not alone. Go to the streets and the state hospitals and you will find many folks like me. The public mental health system and for that matter the private system does a poor job dealing with us. We are referred to as treatment resistant if we are referred to at all. Mostly we are ignored if they can get by with it. Do a search and find out how much has been written on the subject. Especially look for research about folks with a major mental illness who have dealt with their childhood sexual abuse by self-medicating and by developing a number of people inside them to deal with the world. I think they call it Dissociative Identity Disorder.
The positive side of waking up is that I resurrected Project Dream Again. I started this blog. I built a web site. I gave presentations during Mental Illness Awareness Week and I had not given a presentation in almost four years. I had my book reprinted because people were asking for it. I am corresponding with folks in prisons and people who write me in response to the blog which is posted in five places on the net and sent out to an e-list. I am advocating on the local and state level. I am awake.
I am somewhat calmer now, but not back to where I was before the medication change in September 2006. It has been a long and grueling time for both me and my wife. Yes some good has come out of it, but the price is pretty high. What if Patty had given up on me during all this? Would Project Dream Again matter then?
I am glad that my words and the work I do at times are helpful to folks, but it pains me deeply when my illness and my own actions hurt those people around me who love me. Bipolar disorder is a destructive illness when you can’t or will not get it under control. It destroys not just you, but the people who love you.
Folks serious mental illnesses are no joke. That is why I get so mad when the public mental health system never gets the funds it needs, gets turned over to for-profit corporations to take off the top of the already meager pie, and the planners never really listen to the real experts those of us with the illness and our families. Carl Rogers ( who I wrote about in the last blog) believed in the knowledge of the person. I wish the planners and funding sources did.
It may never change, but as long as I am awake I will keep trying to be heard.


You can reach me directly at edcooper@projectdreamagain.com

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www.mentalhealthministries.net
www.pathways2promise.org
www.faithnet.nami.org


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