Tuesday, August 12, 2014


This blog entry is dedicated to all my fellow sojourners who fought through and decided to live.

People get mad at me when I say that committing suicide is a selfish and cowardly act.  They tell me that I don’t know what the person may have been going through.  It is true that I nor anyone else can really know what is going on inside someone else’s mind and heart, but I know what the aftermath of a suicide is.  I also know what it is like to fight deep depression and the desire to die to rid myself of the pain of living.  This whole arena of suicide is not a foreign land to me.

The truth is that suicide may end the pain of the one who commits it, but it is just the beginning of the pain for the people who love them.  The news over the past few months has been full of stories about celebrities committing suicide and also about the suicide rate among active duty military personnel and veterans.  The news does show the pain left behind, but I don’t think anyone with a bigger bully pulpit than mine says enough about really how selfish an act it is.

What good would that do you ask?  In my opinion, it would help prevent more suicides.  One of the main reasons I am still alive is that there are some folks in my life that I don’t want to hurt to that degree.  My wife, among others, would be left feeling empty and hurt if I just up and killed myself to relieve myself of having to go on.  So I come up with something in the future to look forward to so I don’t just dwell on my pain.  I come up with something for the next day and then something down the road.  For example, Patty and I have plans to go to a NASCAR race and to take a trip with a cousin of mine.

It takes more courage to live through a deep dark depression than to end it.  It takes thinking of more than yourself not to kill yourself when you are at your lowest point.  I think the media needs to tell this each time they present a suicide story. It would prevent more suicides and it would honor the many individuals who fought through the darkness and lived to see the morning light.

© Ed Cooper, August 12, 2014, Stoney Creek, Tennessee
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