Friday, September 23, 2016

MY TRUTHS ABOUT SUICIDE by ed

“September 2016 is also known as National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month which helps promote resources and awareness around the issues of suicide prevention, how you can help others and how to talk about suicide without increasing the risk of harm.” http://nami.org/suicideawarenessmonth


I made my first suicide attempt about 60 years ago.  The fact that I am going to celebrate my 68th birthday later this year is nothing short of a miracle. People who know anything at all about my life know this statement is not an exaggeration.   


It is indeed ironic that after all these years of fighting suicide the quality of my life has been so drastically damaged and my  soul shattered by the suicide of a family member.  It is not about blaming her because I did not walk in her shoes nor was I inside her mind and soul.  However, that does not change what her decision has done to the day to day struggles of my wife and to me.  Her sister was my wife’s only sibling.  The person who best held her same memories.  My wife lost her co-memory bank, sister and her childhood playmate.  She will never know the reason her sister killed herself and my wife will never be the same again.


We could be talking more realistically about suicide than we are.  We talk about prevention.  Part of our great prevention plans are laws that allow us to lock hurting people up and hold them like criminals until they say they no longer feel like dying.  I never answer the question about whether or not I am thinking about killing myself to my psychiatrist because I know it does not mean help it means losing my freedom and being locked away.


There is an answer.  You just do not hear it much.


Loving people so authentically that they over time come to believe they are a person worthy of loving themselves so deeply that self-destruction of all kinds simply slowly slip into a sleep.


What do I mean.  I mean that you walk behind them picking up the pieces and helping them put things back together and not walking in front of them with them on a leash trying to drag them where you want them to go.


If they tell you they want to walk straight into hell.  Don’t say, “You will get burnt. Don’t do that.”  Say, “Let me see if we can find a way to get you some fire protection gear.”  


“Carl Rogers (1902-1987) was a humanistic psychologist who agreed with the main assumptions of Abraham Maslow, but added that for a person to "grow", they need an environment that provides them with genuineness (openness and self-disclosure), acceptance (being seen with unconditional positive regard), and empathy (being listened to and understood).” http://www.simplypsychology.org/carl-rogers.html


We need more than a campaign saying “prevent suicide.”  We need people saying we are a “person” and treating us with authentic love and positive regard.  With that we might just learn to Dream Again and want to live.


© Ed Cooper, 9/23/2016, Stoney Creek, Appalachia
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Sunday, September 18, 2016

Keep in Step with the Spirit: SCS 95

Maple Grove Baptist Church, NC

Sunday, September 18, 2016, Stoney Creek Sermonette: Number 95

PRAYER for Today:
Matthew 6:9-13 King James Version (KJV)
9 After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
10 Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
11 Give us this day our daily bread.
12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.

MORNING WORSHIP MUSIC:

SCRIPTURE LESSON for Today:  

Galatians 5:16-26 English Standard Version (ESV)

Keep in Step with the Spirit

16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.
17 For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.
18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality,
20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions,
21 envy,drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit.
26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.


SERMON for Today:

If you let the Holy Spirit show you the way you will stay on the straight and narrow path that Jesus paved for us with His blood.  We will be servants to those around us.  Not soldiers of destruction and oppression.  The “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness.”  All we need do is recognize the Holy Spirit is alive and well.

© Ed Cooper, September 3, 2016, Stoney Creek, Appalachia
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God Bless and May God Walk Beside You Each Step You Take This Week. Amen

© Ed Cooper, September 18, 2016, Stoney Creek, Tennessee, Appalachia  
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(Ed Cooper is an ordained minister and mental health advocate. He lives with his wife Patty in the mountains of East Tennessee.)

Sunday, September 04, 2016

I GO AND PREPARE A PLACE FOR YOU: SCS 94


Sunday, SEPTEMBER 4, 2016, Stoney Creek Sermonette: Number 94


PRAYER for Today:
Matthew 6:9-13 King James Version (KJV)
9 After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
10 Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
11 Give us this day our daily bread.
12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.


MORNING WORSHIP MUSIC:
"In My Father's House" - ( Elvis Presley )

SCRIPTURE LESSON for Today:  
John 14:1-3 New International Version (NIV)

Jesus Comforts His Disciples

14 “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. 2 My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? 3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.

SERMON for Today:

HE WENT AHEAD TO LIGHT THE WAY: a poem by ed

Have you ever walked alone
to an outhouse on a moonless night,
or gone to bed as a child
after watching a horror movie?

Have you driven a dark road for miles
without seeing another car,
or walked an inner city street
looking for a place to sleep?

Think of the time you felt most alone
your heart pounding in your chest
and fear ripping at your soul
like a bear eating its kill.

Oh! I wish you knew the Man
who went on ahead to light the way
for all of us to have a place
that He has prepared just for us.

Your fear would melt away
and the path would be lit up.
Your heart would beat like ocean waves
and you would sleep at home.

© Ed Cooper, September 3, 2016, Stoney Creek, Appalachia
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God Bless and May God Walk Beside You Each Step You Take This Week. Amen

© Ed Cooper, September 4, 2016, Stoney Creek, Tennessee, Appalachia  
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(Ed Cooper is an ordained minister and mental health advocate. He lives with his wife Patty in the mountains of East Tennessee.)